Conflict is an unavoidable part of the human experience. We all have different values, interests and perspectives. Where these differences clash, conflict can arise, and when that conflict is left unresolved, it can harden into lasting enmity.

Human nature often drives us to favor those who belong to our group. The divide between “us” and “them” can lead to suspicion and eventually, hostility. Leaders and movements have long exploited the instinct to protect the familiar from the unfamiliar by amplifying divisions, even creating or exaggerating enemies, to rally support or justify their actions.

But disagreement does not have to lead to hatred.

In fact, the mark of a mature society lies in its ability to manage conflict without descending into demonization, and to engage in disagreement without resorting to dehumanization.

When we make a genuine effort to understand those we oppose, when we listen with intent rather than react on instinct, enemies can become collaborators, or at the very least, peaceful opponents.

How we respond to conflict is a choice. Whether we meet it with resentment or with reconciliation lies within our control.

The making of enemies may be a recurring tendency in our history. But it is not our destiny. It is one expression of our nature, and not the highest one, for while the urge to divide lives within us, so too does the power to unite.

We are capable of compassion. We are capable of understanding. And above all, we are capable of peace.